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What Faith Taught Me About Control

Learning where responsibility ends and trust begins

Summary
I used to believe faith meant managing outcomes carefully and faithfully. Over time, I learned that faith doesn't eliminate responsibility—but it does redefine what was never mine to control.
By A Work in Progress
Dec 31, 2025

Scripture: Micah 6:8

The Misunderstanding I Carried for Years

For a long time, I confused faith with management.

If I prayed, planned, anticipated problems, and stayed vigilant, then surely I was being faithful. I believed responsibility meant preventing failure—and that God's role was to support the effort I was already making.

It took time to realize that faith wasn't askin me to manage outcomes.
It was asking me to understand my limits.

Responsibility Has Edges

Faith clarified something important: responsibility has boundaries.

I am responsible for my actions, my choices, and my posture.
I am not responsible for timing, results, or how others respond.

When those lines blur, faith becomes anxiety disguised as diligence. I wasn't trusting God—I was trying to outwork uncertainty.

Control Masquerading as Wisdom

Control often looked reasonable.

Planning ahead. Staying alert. Anticipating worst-case scenarios. Preparing for every possible outcome. All of it felt mature, even wise.

But underneath it was fear—fear of being surprised, hurt, or caught unprepared again.

Faith didn't condemn that fear. It exposed it.

The Shift From Ownership to Stewardship

One of the clearest lessons faith taught me was the difference between ownership and stewardship.

Ownership says, This outcome is on me.
Stewardship says, This moment is mine to handle well.

Faith asked me to show up fully—but to release the illusion that everything rested on my shoulders.

Learning to Release Without Retreating

Letting go didn't mean disengaging.

I still act.
I still care.
I still prepare where preparation is mine to make.

But I no longer assume that faithful effort guarantees faithful outcomes. Faithfulness is measured in obedience and honesty—not control.

What Faith Is Still Teaching Me

Faith continues to refine where I stop and God begins.

It teaches me when to act—and when to wait.
When to speak—and when to remain still.
When responsibility is required—and when trust is the greater act of obedience.

Faith, I've learned, isn't about holding everything together.

It's about knowing what you were never meant to hold at all.

"What does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God." — Micah 6:8

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