Nov 22

The Survivor in Me

Early Years – The Making of a Ghost (Ages 0-12)

Born into a home where chaos was the only constant, I was faced with physical abuse, emotional neglect, and sexual molestation, shaping a childhood defined by fear and silence. An unnamed family member battling severe mental illness would disappear for days, leaving me alone in the house, forcing me to learn self-reliance far too young. I remember one instance where police kicked in the door during a domestic dispute, then finding me locked in a basement because they didn’t want to deal with my ADHD. I’ve gone days without eating.

This period of my life forged the beginning of my resilience where pain became the teacher that shaped a compassionate heart. I did not want others to endure this same neglect and heartbreak.

The Silent Years – Learning to Survive (Ages 13-17)

I accomplished more than anyone realized as I excelled academically despite no support, I became a top competitor in martial arts, earning my black belt and collecting hundreds of gold medals… nobody celebrated. I discovered natural leadership, even when no one cared enough to notice. I had to work illegal jobs after school just to buy my own clothes, training in martial arts alone, at midnight, in abandoned parking lots or empty school gyms because I had nowhere else to go. I had eventually found a training partner in martial arts, David, who would train with me 12 hours a day. We were a bond that could not be broken. On the way home from a tournament one day, we were in the backseat while his dad and mom were in the front, we were hit by a drunk driver. David passed away at the hospital. This broke me.

I gained strength when I learned to outwork pain. Between every unseen accomplishment and the loss of a great friend… my only friend, I learned to not get to close to anyone. I continued my kindness and respect, but didn’t let anyone get close for years.

The Winter of Exile – Homeless at 17

I was homeless in Michigan during the winter, where I slept in the snow for four months just to survive. I had nights where frostbite nearly took my fingers and toes, being attacked and robbed as I slept outside. Losing important personal items, such as a keepsake necklace from my grandmother. One night, it was negative 12 degrees and I nearly froze to death, saved by the bathroom heater at McDonald’s.

This period of my life built my endurance. I didn’t just survive the cold, I survived a world that had completely abandoned me.

The Rise from Nothing (Ages 19-25)

Some of the greatest accomplishments of my early adult life include becoming a top sales agent in life insurance, developed unshakeable discipline through martial arts, and built early business foundations and skillsets that would later shape my future. I was betrayed by a trusted confidante who stole my credit, costing me a huge financial setback. I had a girlfriend who stole my life savings. I had my first child.

I learned self-worth. Even in success, I realized I stood alone-and that made every victory mine alone. No one to share it with. Was this a good thing, or a bad thing?

The Crusade Against Darkness (Mid-20s to now)

I had three more children during this time. I would think they were a blessing, but honestly, I feel like I’m failing as a parent. My kids, although kind and respectful (most of the time), are very well uneducated (because I was too busy working), and have various mental disorders, from autism to ADHD, ODD, and DMDD. I try my best, but sometimes I feel like my best isn’t enough. I wish I knew how to help them better. I wish I had help!

Let’s discuss my choice in women. Jessica, who stole my house by working with the landlord to illegally remove my name from the lease and add her name to it. The only proof I had was the printed lease inside the house. I contacted police and attorneys, nothing I could do if I didn’t find that lease. My kids and I lost everything we owned that day. We had no money, no clothes, no food, no place to live. We were homeless at an instant’s notice.

Susan… got upset because I was talking to a female friend, Madison (as mentioned below). I even showed her the messages, our entire conversation revolved her temptation to relapse. The next day, I was at work in Daytona and Susan was supposed to pick up my kids from school. She went to the school to get her daughter, but left my kids. I had to leave work and rush to the school to get my kids. When I got them and attempted to enter our home, the doors were locked. Deland PD said they could not force her to let me in, even though I had proof of permanent residency. Susan sold my car (in my name) to the junkyard. Police refused to do anything because of the community property law. She kept everything we owned, including a washer and dryer (in my name) being rented from Aaron’s. I still had to pay that bill even though Susan kept the washer and dryer. Once again, we were homeless, with nothing.

Tabatha… proposed to me during sex. WTF am I supposed to say? That was the highest form of manipulation. We got married two weeks later, but it was all part of a larger plan. During this time, I sold life insurance and had multiple sizeable life insurance policies. Tabatha poisoned me with rat poisoning in an attempt to kill me and collect life insurance. She almost succeeded, twice. Both times about a couple weeks apart. The first time I had a hemoglobin level of 2.4, which is usually when people die. Both murder attempts resulted in blood transfusions and endoscopies.

Tiffany… Tyler and Jaden’s mom, who is suspected to have bipolar (but never diagnosed) would often threaten me with a large kitchen knife. On one day, I had to take Tyler to work with me (he was a baby then) because she didn’t feel like being a parent that day. I promptly had my evil stepmother pick him up, against my better judgment, but it didn’t change the fact that I got fired from my job for bringing my son to work, who was only there like 45 minutes of my shift. It was an office job and I knew I would have gotten fired for calling in late because the duty I had to perform would have shut the entire company down on such short notice. I actually didn’t get fired instantly, I trained my replacement without knowing it. My replacement? My sister. I thought I was doing her a favor by getting her a job. She was my replacement. Tiffany cheated on my multiple times and created heartbreak that was way too damaging.

Jennifer… the first girl I met in Florida, back in 2002. Later in life she became a drug addict and I struggled with this for awhile. But there’s nothing in place to restrict access to medications. Did you know? If you go to a hospital and they deny pain meds, you can just jump to another hospital until one gives them to you? She used to get three months of medication, every single week… the system allowed it. On March 3, 2020, Jennifer walked away from a great life and beautiful children, one month before Isabella’s 2nd birthday. She was gone, unheard of, for nine months. We had no clue if she was even still alive.

To this day, Tiffany and Jennifer still only sees the kids maybe 3 or 4 times a year. Lately, Jennifer has been seeing them a little more, but it’s not about the kids… she wants me back. I continue to reject her advances. She will NEVER get me back. She abandoned us. She can come see the kids, they love her unconditionally. She can’t have me!!!

Now, let’s talk about “her”. This unnamed girl got my spark back. I saw something in her that I’m willing to bet no one has ever seen in her. The beauty of her soul shines brighter than the pain she’s been through. I wanted to ease some of that pain. I wanted to be a reason for her happiness. I wanted her to rise above all that pain and suffering. But after continuous rejection, I eventually had to realize, neither of us really did anything wrong. The timing just wasn’t right. On May 5, 2025, I met the most beautiful soul in my life, and I couldn’t have her! It broke me. Again, not because we did anything wrong, it was just the wrong time. She had just gotten out of an abusive relationship and she’s still in her healing phase. I’ve gone through my healing phase between Jennifer abandoning us and the situation with my friends (as mentioned below).

After my children’s mother fell into addiction, I became an outspoken advocate against drugs where I helped many people get clean. I met some of the most incredible, broken, courageous people where I built friendships through pain, people who trusted me because I saw who they were beneath the addiction. But… on June 12, 2024, my life would take a tragic turn. While I was busy working an insane number of hours, I ignored the call from Madison (as it came through at 2:43am)… I was working on something I “thought” was important. The next day as police showed up at my door, Madison, Brooke, Tyler, Jackson, Evan, and Cole were found dead from a group suicide. I was too “busy” to save them. I held onto this guilt ever since, and I will until the day I die.

After my friends past away, I slowed down on work. I could no longer allow myself to be too “busy” for people. I had built my company up from the ground and acquired a savings most people would dream of. I was fortunate, I was happy. My kids were happy and healthy. We had no financial stress. After I slowed down with work (due to my friends passing away), I started draining my savings. I helped everyone. I’ve put homeless people in hotels. I’ve fed people. I’ve hosted events. I spread joy and happiness by spending my money. The people I met along the way didn’t want my money, but they needed the things it could help them with. I changed lives. When my money ran out, I began taking out loans and maxing out credit cards, I continue to work myself into debt in order to help people. I’m the guy that will hold a door for 20 minutes as people walk through to wish them a great day and God bless them. You never know the kind of day someone is having, and that small gesture could just save someone’s life. You can ask Abby, she seen this first hand as she’s just standing there watching me greet people, over and over, and over again while at Wawa during a busy afternoon.

This debt I’m working myself into won’t last long as I just rebranded my business, but this is assuming… I’m still surviving long enough to see it through. I know there’s a lot of people that wish I didn’t exist, and it’s up to me to decide if I make their wish come true, or continue surviving. I’m at a point in my life where I might just give up. Stop surviving. It’s been a long and difficult life, but at some point, God just might be giving me more than I can handle.

During my life, I have met some of the most amazing people (and some shitty ones).

David – my good friend who practiced martial arts with me 12 hours a day. We were both champions with hundreds of gold medals. We explored Michigan, Ohio, and Florida to participate in local, nationwide, and global martial arts tournaments. David sadly passed away during a drunk driver car accident. I was in the car with him and his parents.

My Dad – my dad was an amazing man, however, like me, he was a workaholic. He owned his own garbage company, Don’s Disposal, and later merged with Arrow Waste. He was kind and respectful… but, he allowed his wife, my evil step mother, to run the house and make all the decisions. I rarely saw my dad because he was working nearly 20 hours a day. During these times, I was abused, sexually molested, locked in the basement, and rarely fed. My step mother kicked me out at 17 where I had to sleep in the snow.

Madison – I met Madison during a period of my life where I was helping people get clean from drugs. I used a system that was almost always effective, but to do it, you have to put pain into people’s hearts first… but it worked. Madison got clean, she would talk to me for 6 hours every night when her temptations were the strongest. We learned to love each other unconditionally (but not romantically, although, there was one kiss that almost changed that). Madison had a bright soul. She left behind two young girls.

Brooke – I met Brooke about a week after I met Madison. They were sisters. They became drug addicts after their mom past away, their closest, and best friend. The mom and daughters were closer than most mom and daughter relationships. Brooke had a smile that could light up any room, she was the girlfriend of Tyler…

Tyler – I met Tyler about 6 months after I met Brooke. During the time I met Brooke, Tyler wasn’t an addict. Shortly after, Tyler was in a car accident, which caused a lot of pain. He was prescribed pain meds and became addicted. Tyler and Brooke had one son together, who would later pass away from a drive by shooting. This was after I helped Tyler get off the pain meds. When his son passed away, Tyler had relapsed. He wanted to numb the pain and escape. I again had to help him get clean. It wasn’t easy.

Jackson, Evan, and Cole were red head triplets. I met them at a drug rehabilitation center where I was volunteering. They became addicted to cocaine during a party they were invited to. This is the story I was told, although, I believe some details were left out. We later became best friends forming basketball teams and shooting hoops until after it was dark. Jackson ended up getting a sports scholarship to FSU, but ended up having to reject it because his mental health was declining fast. He advised FSU he will not be attending early in 2024. It is believed that Jackson orchestrated the group suicide.

Shawna – An amazing soul that helped me through some heartbreak and still continues to do so.

Abigail – I consider her to be my best friend. We’ve spent a lot of time together preparing for Baby Noah. We’ve had some amazing conversations. I helped her through some tough times and helped her with something that changed her life forever. She’s very thankful I exist and she tells me this everyday.

Baby Noah – He’s not here yet (coming Tuesday!). I already love Baby Noah, even though I haven’t met him yet. I feel like a bond has already been created between Uncle Donnie and Baby Noah.

Yvette – We don’t always agree on everything, but she usually gives me the harsh truth that I usually don’t want to hear. I consider her a great friend, but it may have caused me to step over the line……….

Dorothy – There is not a soul on the face of this planet that I love more (besides my kids). Dorothy has shown me a light that I wish the whole world could witness. There’s something spectacular about her. She’s been through some of the darkest days, and she’s still surviving, she’s still smiling, she’s still laughing (and I love her laugh so much). I wanted to be a part of her life so very much. I wanted to make her happy… to help ease her pain. To give her something she’s never had before, unconditional love from a man. One that would never hurt her. But, I did hurt her, unintentionally. When I met Dorothy, the intentions behind it was to make a new friend. The sister of someone I’ve known for awhile. I never planned on falling in love, but I did. I thought it was destiny. The unexpected love kind of way. I thought she was my future. But I came to her at the wrong time, and now, I feel like this is the end!

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Sep 11

Letter #10 – The Gift of Clarity

My dearest,

There are few things in this world as comforting as clarity. Even when the truth is difficult to hear, even when the answer is not the one our hearts long for, it is always better than silence. Silence leaves room for doubt, and doubt has a way of echoing louder than any word spoken.

I’ve realized that sometimes, what hurts the most is not the “no” we might hear, but the unanswered question that lingers in the air. When we love deeply, we long for connection, for a response, for reassurance that our presence is acknowledged. To be left wondering can feel heavier than rejection itself, because the mind starts to fill the spaces with fears, with doubts, with questions that never stop.

But love, at its strongest, is not about avoiding hard truths. It is about the courage to answer with honesty, to speak even when the words may not be easy. Because in those moments, even if the answer isn’t what we dreamed, there is a comfort in knowing where we stand, in knowing that we are seen, that we matter enough for honesty.

So today, let this letter be a gentle encouragement: speak your heart. Answer the questions asked of you, even if the answer is “not tonight” or “not now.” For in that honesty lies a gift far greater than silence – the gift of clarity, of trust, and of peace.

Always yours,

– Donald

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Sep 10

Letter #9 – The Beauty of Honest Hearts

My dearest,

I’ve been reminded lately that love isn’t built on perfection or flawless timing–it’s built on honesty, openness, and the willingness to walk through uncertainty together. Life isn’t always clear, and sometimes silence or distance can leave us with questions. But what steadies my heart is the belief that love grows stronger when it is rooted in truth.

I don’t need every detail or constant reassurance. What matters most to me is knowing that you feel safe enough to share your heart, in your own time and in your own way. Love doesn’t demand–it invites. And so I want you to know, you never have to hide your thoughts or feelings from me. Whatever your truth may be, I want to receive it with compassion, because what matters most is you.

I’ll admit, I stumble. At times I let my worries get the better of me. But even in those moments, my heart is learning that trust is the steady bridge between two people–it doesn’t collapse under silence, and it doesn’t demand constant proof. It holds firm because it believes in something greater: the connection between us.

So my encouragement for today is this: don’t be afraid of honesty, even when it feels heavy. It is the light that guides us forward. Love doesn’t weaken under the truth–it deepens. And I promise you, no matter the season, my heart will always choose to walk beside yours.

Always yours,

– Donald

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Sep 09

Letter #8 – The Foundation of Trust

My dearest,

Love cannot grow without trust. It is the foundation beneath every step, the thread that holds every word together, the quiet strength that steadies us when doubts try to break through.

Trust does not mean ignoring fear. Sometimes silence makes us worry, sometimes unanswered questions leave us restless. But real trust reminds us that love is not about controlling outcomes – it’s about believing in one another even when clarity hasn’t come yet.

There will be times when the world feels uncertain, when the story takes turns we don’t expect, when we are left waiting for answers we long to hear. In those moments, patience and trust walk hand in hand. To trust is to say, even if I don’t see the full picture, I still believe in you. Even if I don’t understand, I still choose to stand beside you.

My encouragement to you today is this: don’t let fear steal what trust has built. Love doesn’t thrive on suspicion; it thrives on faith. Love doesn’t wither in uncertainty; it finds a way to hold steady until the truth shines through.

Always yours,

– Donald

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Sep 08

Letter #7 – The Call to Adventure

My dearest,

Love is more than comfort – it is discovery. It is the joy of stepping into new experiences together, the laughter that comes when plans twist unexpectedly, and the quiet thrill of knowing the best memories often come when we least expect them.

Adventure doesn’t always mean distant places or grand gestures. Sometimes it’s as simple as looking up at the night sky together, finding constellations, and letting music fill the silence. Sometimes it’s in the small surprises – flowers, chocolate, or a shared smile that feels like a secret between us. What matters is not how perfect the plan is, but that we choose to keep showing up for each other, ready to create something beautiful out of the moment we’re given.

Not every adventure will unfold the way we imagine. Life interrupts, things change, and sometimes we’re left disappointed. But I believe love is stronger than canceled plans and louder than misunderstandings. The true adventure is not in what happens, but in who we choose to become through it.

So here is my encouragement to you: don’t give up on the wonder of discovery. Don’t let one missed moment overshadow the many still waiting for us. Love is not finished – it is unfolding, and the greatest adventures are still ahead.

Always yours,

– Donald

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Sep 07

Letter #6 – The Courage to Be Real

My dearest,

I’ve realized that love isn’t about presenting a perfect version of ourselves — it’s about having the courage to be real, even when it feels uncomfortable. To sing off-key, to stumble over words, to risk embarrassment — and to trust that the one who matters will see the heart behind it all.

The world can be loud with opinions, quick to judge and slow to understand. But love is not found in their voices. It’s found in the quiet reassurance that someone values your honesty more than perfection. It’s found in knowing that, even when you falter, you are still seen, still chosen, and still enough.

I may not always get things right. I may worry too much or speak when I should stay quiet. But what I want you to know is this: I will always choose honesty over pretense, courage over silence, and love over fear.

So my encouragement for today is simple — don’t be afraid to be real. Don’t let the weight of outside voices dim your light. The truest connections are built not on polished performances, but on authenticity. And in that space, love has room to grow stronger.

Always yours,

— Donald

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Sep 06

Letter #5 – The Strength of Patience

My dearest,

I’ve been reminded lately how much love is tested not only in moments of closeness, but also in the quiet stretches in between. It’s easy to feel uncertain when silence lingers, but I’m learning that patience and trust are part of the foundation of something lasting.

Love isn’t about constant words or endless conversation–it’s about knowing that care and connection remain, even when life pulls us into busyness, weariness, or quiet days. It’s about holding onto the truth that presence isn’t only measured in messages or calls; sometimes it is found in the quiet assurance that someone is still there, even when they’re not speaking.

I’ll admit, I overthink, I let small gaps feel bigger than they are. But what steadies me is remembering that love grows in patience. It’s a steady flame, not a fleeting spark. It doesn’t need constant proof, only the trust that it continues to burn.

So today, my encouragement is this: let us not measure love by the noise it makes, but by the calm it brings. In patience, we find strength. In understanding, we find peace. And in the moments of quiet, we discover that the heart still speaks louder than words ever could.

Always your,s

– Donald

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Sep 05

Letter #4 – The Space Between Words

My dearest,

Love is not always found in endless conversations or in perfectly chosen words. Sometimes, it’s found in the space between them – in the patience to wait, in the hope that tomorrow brings a little more time, a little more closeness.

I know that life doesn’t always leave room for every thought to be spoken, every feeling to be shared. But I want you to know that my heart is always open to you. Whether you want to talk for hours or say very little at all, I will always be here, ready to listen, ready to care.

For me, connection is not about filling the silence – it’s about knowing we don’t need to hide in it. Even when words are few, love remains steady. Even when days are busy, love continues to grow quietly in the background. And even when I long to hear more from you, I remind myself that love is not measured in messages or moments – it is measured in faithfulness, in showing up, in choosing each other again and again.

So today, let me remind you of this: you are never too quiet for me. You never need to worry that silence will drive me away. My love is stronger than that. It will wait, it will hope, and it will treasure every chance we do have to share ourselves more deeply.

Always yours,

– Donald

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Sep 04

Letter #3 – Listening Hearts

My dearest,

Not every day comes with bright colors or exciting stories. Some days feel heavy with responsibilities, long with errands, and quiet in the places where we wish there was more energy left. And yet, even on days like that, I am reminded of how meaningful love can be.

Because love is not measured only in perfect moments – it is measured in presence. In being willing to listen, even beside one another in spirit even when the day feels overwhelming. Sometimes, the greatest gift we can give is not answers, but simply the assurance: I am here, and I will listen.

I want you to know that with me, you will always have the space. You never have to carry the weight of your day alone. Whether it’s something important or something simple, whether you’re full of words or have none at all, I will always make time to hear your heart.

And woven into all of this are the little reminders that balance the weight – the laughter that sneaks in, the silly moments that make the day lighter, the memories of yesterday that remind us what we’ve already lived through and the dreams of tomorrow that keep us hopeful. Even small jokes or shared smiles are proof that love doesn’t just endure busy days – it makes them worth it.

So if today feels like more of the same, let this letter remind you: your voice matters. Your story matters. And whether the day is quiet, busy, or somewhere in between, you are never without someone who wants to hear you and hold you close.

Always yours,

– Donald

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Sep 03

Letter #2 – The Beauty of Little Moments

My dearest,

I’ve come to realize that love isn’t only found in the grand gestures or carefully planned milestones – i is stitched together in the little moments, the ones that seem ordinary at first glance but leave an imprint on the heart.

It’s in the way laughter spills out unexpectedly, in conversations that wander without agenda, in the quiet pauses where simply being near one another is enough. These are the threads that weave two lives together, slowly, gently, beautifully.

The truth is, I don’t need perfection or constant excitement to feel content. What I need – what I cherish – is you sharing pieces of yourself, even in the smallest ways. A smile, a story, a moment of honesty, or even just sitting together while the world moves on around us. Those are the memories that last, because they remind me that real love grows in presence, not performance.

So let this letter be my encouragement to you today: never underestimate the value of the little things. They are not fillers between bigger events – they are the story itself. And every small memory we create together adds to something greater, something worth holding onto, something I never want to lose.

Always yours,

– Donald

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